28 June 2006

Pure Refreshment 1.14 -> An Unsuccessful Success

One of the most astonishing things about God is that he accomplishes his plans in ways custom-tailored to each individual. The Bible contains numerous examples of this: Abraham’s journey to Mount Moriah with his son Isaac (Genesis 22) to test his obedience; Gideon’s army being reduced from 32,000 to 300 (Judges 7) to test his level of trust and reveal the power of God; and Paul’s transformation from ‘hater of those who follow Christ’ to ‘proclaimer of Christ to those who don’t know him’ (Acts 9). Such faith stories are designed to inspire, challenge, and refresh those who hear them.

Today, I would like to share with you my faith story.

The story begins in my hometown of North Myrtle Beach SC, a popular tourist destination and home to the dance known as the shag. I was one of those kids who wanted to hang out with the popular crowd, but never was quite able to do so. Maybe it was due to clothing style. Maybe it was my inability to play basketball well. I’m still not sure. Whatever the reason, it allowed me to spend many hours at the Powell residence, where a group of us would attempt to recreate WWE wrestling matches on a trampoline, play video games, and learn to skateboard. Every so often, Mrs. Powell would take a quick break from her dog grooming business next door and say hello to us, sometimes inviting us to her church.

For me, Sundays were spent watching NASCAR or helping Dad with numerous odd jobs. Church was not part of the day’s agenda. But one weekend, I asked my parents if it would be okay if I went with her and her son John. To my surprise, they allowed me to. Despite my initial feelings upon entering the building, I enjoyed the trip. There were people that I knew, and they seemed to like the fact that I was there. Over the next year or so, I attended as often as I could, even when Mrs. Powell was sick or out of town. Raymond, the youth guy, and his family were kind enough to take me home afterwards on some occasions, which I sincerely appreciated.

A few months later, it was announced that a skiing trip to the mountains of North Carolina was planned for January, and everyone was invited—provided they attended enough meetings and activities. I qualified (barely), but two weeks before the vans rolled out, I came down with the flu. While at home, I found a copy of the Living Bible inside a stand in my room. I was tired of video games and chicken noodle soup, so I laid on my bed and read the books of Matthew, Mark, and Luke in one sitting. Incredible, I thought. I wonder if this stuff really is true . . .

The day of the trip arrived, and I was ready to go. My luggage was at the church, courtesy of my father. The kids were gathering. However, I was at the high school, watching the number of students dwindle and the clock draw nearer to our departure time of 4 PM.

The director, Raymond, had made a promise to pick me up, since Mom and Dad were both working. But it was 3:40 and he was nowhere to be found. In a measure of desperation, I asked the last student in the parking lot to convince his father to take me. I arrived at the church, immediately made my way to Raymond, and asked him what happened to the promise.

His response surprised me: “Well, at least you’re here.”

We drove all night, arriving in Boone NC during a snowstorm. The next day, I attempted to ski for the first time. It wasn’t pretty. The rest of the trip wasn’t much prettier. It was as if the snow had revealed the group’s true attitudes about me. I was routinely ignored, talked down to, and alienated at points by them—as well as Raymond. I just needed some encouragement, and it wasn’t coming. The breaking point came when the group gathered in a hotel room to see a movie, and upon my entrance, the group (with Raymond inside) yelled, “Get out of here!” It was made worse because Raymond had chosen me to room with him and two other students that weekend.

After the movie debacle, I closed the door to my room and walked over to the window. Looking down, I saw the remnants of the previous day’s snowstorm. My mind was experiencing a mixture of emotions—uncertainty, anger, rejection, fear. What had held so much potential and promise was now a distant memory.

I didn’t know what to do, so I did the only two things I knew at the time. The first was to compose myself. The second was to watch an episode of American Gladiators, all the time thinking, Why am I even here?

The rest of the roommates arrived later on, followed by Raymond. Seeing him, I felt a level of frustration I had never experienced before well up inside me—and I let him have it: “What’s going on? I didn’t come here to be ignored and alienated! Do you have any idea how I’m feeling right now? You could’ve shown a little bit of compassion at some point this week!”

Raymond didn’t change his attitude as a result, replying, “Well, it’s too late now.” He then added, “We’re going to have our room devotion (a short Bible story relating to the trip) in ten minutes.” Knowing I couldn’t escape, my plan was to tune him out for the devotion and just go to sleep.

But something unexpected occurred.

I found myself hanging on every word Raymond said as he talked about Jesus, his life, something about a cross, and that I needed to have him as a friend that is closer than a brother. I knew my attitudes weren’t right. I knew I’d made tons of mistakes in my young life. I suddenly realized that Jesus bridged a gap I could never attempt to cross in my life. He provides the path to true refreshment for anyone who takes him at his word and claims him as their Forgiver and Leader.

Despite Raymond’s broken promise and seeming indifference to my feelings, the group’s attitude towards me, and a long evening watching American Gladiators in a lonely hotel room, what appeared on the outside to be unsuccessful was in fact a major success. And in this case, the message of Christ won over my life.

I write these words 16½ years later, realizing that the journey is challenging and exhilarating at the same time. I still mess up and make mistakes, but Christ has provided me a new outlook on life and what I should be doing to tell others about him, just like Paul experienced on a dusty road one afternoon 2000 years ago.

So, what’s your story? Do you have someone you can tell it to? May you share it with someone who needs to hear it this week. If you don’t have a story, it’s not too late to begin writing one. Feel free to email me (purerefreshment@gmail.com) if you’d like to know more, or find a follower of Christ you trust. We’re all in this together.

Whatever your response, may God refresh you today. And as he does, may you, in turn, go and refresh others.


“This is how much God loved the world: He gave his Son, his one and only Son. And this is why: so that no one need be destroyed; by believing in him, anyone can have a whole and lasting life.”
—John 3:16-17 (The Message)


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14 June 2006

Pure Refreshment 1.13 -> The Wish

Imagine that you’re walking along the beach one summer afternoon. As you approach a group of seagulls, something catches your attention. There, bobbing in the waves, is a bottle. Your curiosity gets the best of you as you walk out in the surf to retrieve it. A closer examination reveals nothing distinctive about the bottle, and you scan the horizon for the nearest trash can to dispose of it in.

“Excuse me.”

Startled, you turn around to find a man standing in front of you. Odd; this stretch of beach was deserted a few minutes ago, you think. Before you can respond, the man continues what seems to be a rehearsed speech:

“I am pleased to let you know that the bottle you hold is special. It doesn’t look that way, but the individual who holds it is granted an unlimited number of wishes.”

You interrupt: “Wait. Are you some sort of genie or something?”

“No. I’m the caretaker of the bottle. The person who finds it is able to have the wishes.” Then he adds, “I should mention that the wishes may only be used by you, for your individual benefit. And you can’t wish for world peace or anything like that.”

“Alright.” You hold the bottle, look out at the shore and the seagulls, and announce, “I wish . . . that nothing bad would happen to me for the rest of my life . . .”

Kind of a strange wish, don’t you think? What would happen as a result? (Note to any Hollywood directors reading this: email me and I’ll give you the rest of the plot.)

Isn’t there something inside us that wants to see the pain in our lives just disappear for good? Sure, we’re not in as bad a situation as Job, who was physically afflicted in addition to losing his cattle, sheep, and children
(Job 1-2). However, it’s not fun dealing with any form of disappointment, heartache, grief, or despair.

The truth is, we will not be able to emerge from this world unscathed from trials and challenges. What would life be like if God was a ‘genie’ that granted all our wishes? We might enjoy it for a season, but eventually we would become miserable. The reason is simple: the situations we face in life are opportunities God uses to refine our character and attitudes into his.

It’s one thing to open a Bible, turn to Galatians 5:22-23, and memorize the ‘fruits of the Spirit’—love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. It’s another thing to show a coworker kindness after being falsely accused of something in the presence of your boss. Life is the testing ground for all the things we believe.

Take patience as an example. This character quality is one many individuals (myself included) have a difficult time mastering. In my case, it stems from something a youth director told me in high school: “Whatever you do, don’t ask God for patience, because he will put you in situations that will force you to be patient.” It almost seemed as if he was saying, “There’s got to be a better way to learn patience.” If there is, I haven’t found it yet, much less one that is free of suffering. Patience is more than just being able to endure gridlock during the afternoon commute. Instead, it’s a willingness to not allow situations or people to control the direction of your life.

When struggles do occur, we have a natural tendency to ask “Why?” because we want something different than what we’re currently seeing or experiencing. But is it wrong to ask a question like this to God? Absolutely not! Moses (Exodus 5:22), Joshua (Joshua 7:7), David (Psalm 10:1), even Jesus (Matthew 27:46) asked the Lord “Why?” questions. Even if the answers were not provided to them, each situation served to fulfill God’s ultimate plan—that all people would believe that Jesus is the way to an eternal relationship with him.

In addition to God’s plans, the apostle Peter understood something else about trials—there’s an enemy on the loose, trying to wreak havoc on the unsuspecting (see 1 Peter 5:8). The last thing the devil wants is to see God’s plans for a person fulfilled. As a result, he will do anything he can in our lives (and those around us) to get us sidetracked. However, Peter says that we can withstand these attacks because we know other followers are struggling as well (see 1 Peter 5:9).

As he concludes his note, Peter adds a comforting thought: “But may the God of all grace, who called us to his eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you” (1 Peter 5:10 [NKJV]). God’s work in our lives is not in vain. He will take the challenges and hurts and transform them into a distinctive work of art.

In the final analysis, there is a reason for everything that happens (see Ecclesiastes 3:1-8). We may not be able to see immediately the reason(s) for them, but we must consider each situation in life an opportunity to become more like Jesus. Yes, there may be pain and suffering involved. But the end result will be better than anything we can wish for.

My prayer is that you would take time today to talk to God about the struggles you’re facing and allow him to refresh you. And as he does, may you, in turn, refresh others.


“When we want to be something other than the thing God wants us to be, we must be wanting what, in fact, will not make us happy.”
—CS Lewis1


“Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”
—Colossians 3:12-14 (NIV)


1 Lewis, CS. The Problem of Pain. Macmillan, New York NY, 1962: 47.


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